Perfect Parenting – Family Dispute Resolution
Is there such as thing as a perfect parent? Perhaps not, and in any case, if there was, it could reasonably be assumed that this perfect parent made all the mistakes we all make, and learned the best way to parent thereafter.
Solving a family dispute is a good way to show, just how perfect of a parent, someone is.
Cardinal Law of Parenting
Again, safely assuming that most parents make a great deal of errors before they learn the best way forward in parenting, the cardinal law of parenting must be stated.
It usually saves the family from breaking up, and certainly gives the children a firm basis for their own lives.
The cardinal law of parenting is that the parents love each other. If they do that, the children will be all right. This is an age old proven observation, crossing civilizations and time itself.
The Family Dispute
There is no way to characterize all the different kinds of family disputes. The answer lies in the word used to describe keeping the kids in order, which is ‘discipline’. This word comes from the root word ‘disciple’ and as it can be expected, the parents expect the kids to be like them…their disciples.
Family disputes are often centered on the parent’s rules and the children’s desires that contradict those rules. There are other reasons for family disputes, certainly, but more often than not, the root cause will lie in rules and breaking the rules.
Resolution of Family Dispute
The parent, if properly informed and sensitive to the needs and psychological make up of the children (and the spouse), can achieve the following with a small bit of effort:
• Dispute analysis
• Psychological state of each family member
• Stress levels affecting each family member
• Degree of outside (the family) influence (i.e. peer pressure)
• Goals (or lack of ) from each family member
Armed with the above information, the parent attempting to resolve a family dispute can act to:
• De-heat tempers
• Soothe damaged egos
• De-stress and relax a stressed and pressured family member
• Offer some workable and compromistic solutions
In fact, there is not much more a parent can do, except to have been and be a good example and role model for the children to follow and the spouse to admire and respect.
Let the Cardinal Law of parenting also work in your behalf, and the children may, with your sensitivity and limitless understanding, agree with you to resolve instead of dissolve.
The parent must lead the way, perfect or not. If for some reason, the parent is the cause of the dispute, then the parent must also, quickly become the solution.
Sacha Tarkovsky
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