Preparing for Divorce
Couples deciding to divorce begin preparing for divorce mostly by looking for information on the legal process in the courts and divorce laws. The truth is that preparing for divorce should begin before the decision to dissolve the marriage is even made.
Yes, seeing an attorney for information on the legal process, on what rights you have from the marriage as to children and property, and what options you have besides fighting it out in court are extremely important. But there’s a lot of information you will need that has nothing to do with the divorce process itself but that may determine the outcome of many issues.
Knowing how to prepare before even seeing an attorney will also make the process of choosing an alternative for the divorce a lot easier. For example, being prepared before there is ever talk about divorce will let you weigh the options with an attorney as to how likely you are to succeed on a particular issue in court versus resolving it through mediation or collaborative law.
If it looks like divorce litigation is on the horizon for you, preparing and having documentation ready will also cut down on the cost of having to get copies of important documents through your attorney’s assistance in getting them from third parties or forcing your spouse to produce it.
Even if divorce litigations is not likely, this kind of preparation will let you get the most of your first consultation with an attorney. That’s because you will have the ability to look for information elsewhere before you sit down for a consultation with an attorney about your divorce. If you are willing to spend some time to prepare yourself for your first meeting with an attorney, you will know what specific questions to ask regarding your situation, and get a better sense of what you need to do and the context or reasons for doing it.
With states providing divorce forms, many people prefer to try doing their own divorce. This may make sense if you and your spouse have no property or children. Otherwise, if you’re thinking of doing the divorce yourselves, without an attorney, preparation will be even more important.
If you have children, preparing for a custody fight is not something to be left until there is talk of divorce or the divorce is filed.
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© Vivian Rodriguez
Vivian Rodriguez
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How do I avoid sex with my abusive husband while preparing to secretly divorce?
I am fed up with my abusive husband(mainly verbal and mental but has been physical years ago). Even though I’m scared ass hell I am planning to divorce him as soon as I can. My kids and I will move in with my mom until I feel ready to have a place of my own. My problem is that we haven’t had sex in about a month and he is getting tired of my excuses. To make it even worse I really want to have sex because I need it too and I don’t want to cheat. I think that if we have sex he will go back to thinking that I’m ok and that I want to stay with him and put up with his bullshit. I sometimes find it hard to separate my emotions from sex. I don’t want to fall into the trap of thinking things could be better because the sex is really the only good thing between us. I think that is why we are still together to this day. I wonder if it’s wrong to have sex with him while I’m here even though I’m going to leave him?
Just have him arrested.
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You need to just get out. After you have been out go out and have a good time you deserve it. And hopefully he rots.
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Extremely carefully .
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I would suggest leaving him right away but if that’s not possible, don’t have sex with him that will just complicate things and you could come up pregnant and by the way it sounds that’s the last thing you need.
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Just leave…if you put you and your kids in danger your just being a bad parent. You could try putting exlax in his drink and food
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You are right about him thinking that you are fine and continue his abuse. So just stop and get out asap. Listen to your heart not your hormones.
Enough is Enough
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Do not wait—call a local women’s shelter and remove yourself and children from that situation. Just tell him you are ill and leave it at that–move on and make your life happy. Why you are allowing this to happen to yourself and children is beyond me…shelters receive thousands in donations and are willing to help in situations such as yours. If he is physically abusive to you–CALL THE POLICE. The fact is your divorce isn’t going to be a secret for long–you will have to face him. Good luck in your "new" life–it will be better!
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It’s not wrong. If anything, he will think everything is ok. I’d find a different place to go though. He will find you at moms.
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tell him you have a vaginal discharge, and accuse him of cheating and getting you infected. He’ll be too busy dodging the accusations to doubt your story.
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Screw him as hard and wild as you can, all day, every day.
Then leave his ass.
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I applaude you for getting out ..more women should do what you are doing..keep your secret and do not let him know your plans ..its ok to have sex with him but just do not forget to keep this promise that you made to yourself……..women are great we are natural born actresses give it all you got that night and then sock it to his sorry ass god bless you for standing up for yourself,,sureilll
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Get your kicks with him as far as you can handle it. And I don’t mean crying through the whole thing. You deserve the best and you know it, it’s how to get the best that is the problem. Reach out to shelters and internet sites to find out how to handle problems as they arise. I did, but i also got the hell out of town so he couldn’t harass me either. Abuse is abuse that is abuse, it’s just a matter of time till you break. Whether it’s breaking free or breaking stuff along the way of a fight. Good luck and seek help from counselors and such. They are a great help. Just trust in someone! My prayers will be with you sweetie!
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girl you needs to make up your mind to leave if he is abusive as you say ,then leave for the sake of the kids but if you chooses to stay then talk to him about how you are feeling. sex is not everything, when you are not happy .
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I think you need to eat and breathe, I don’t think you need sex.
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avoiding sex is abuse too, so you are not any better
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well try sleeping in a different bed.. he will probably take a hint then and go find some sex for himself from some other chick and leave you alone till your divorce…. That or you can take it a step further and find some chick that he knows and ask her if she can please take him off your hands till you get your butt out of there. or maybe one of ya gurls can take one for the team.
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Just leave when he is gone
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