A Family Law Attorney Can Smooth Things Over
Smoothing things over becomes an unpleasant task for many amateurs in divorce cases, a task that these people are not usually prepared to face. Bitter words and harsh times can create even more uncomfortable, awkward and very tense situations or environments for the parties involved and even for those around them. Having a professional who can help to fix these situations and draft and create fair, just settlements for divorced couples can be invaluable to these couples as they go through the divorce process.
Strangely, when one thinks of a family law attorney, they often think of those lawyers we have seen on television that have sinister ideas and intricate plots to destroy the lives of their opponents. What one will discover if they spend any time at all with any attorney is that this is simply not the case. The vast majority of attorneys are committed to discovering what is fair and implementing a settlement that reflects this. A family law attorney is not interested in taking a bad situation and making it worse. This does not benefit them at all and goes against the sense of fairness and equality that they fight to protect. A family should never go through a divorce alone, without the counsel of a professional to guide them through what can become ugly situations and hard times.
Especially if there are children involved in the divorce, these situations can become bitter messes from the very beginning. Former couples sometimes spend countless dollars and a great deal of time trying to decide who is going to have custody of their children after their divorce. What is often forgotten in situations such as these is: what is best for the children? A family law attorney will bring their expertise in these situations and past experiences in similar cases in helping the family decide what is best for the children. Many families face the unpleasant requirement of putting their children through a messy divorce when the parents cannot get along or stay married to each other any longer. When divorce seems inevitable, the parents will usually fight often, be miserable and create tense situations inside the home, which their children often pick up on. So, getting divorced may be the best thing for the children in some cases, as nobody wants their children to grow up in these circumstances. A messy divorce, however, will often create the very thing the parents were trying to avoid, a tense and uncomfortable situation for their children. Having a family law attorney to help the parents through these troubled times will help to smooth the situation and create a fair and calm environment for the children.
As everybody knows, divorce is not a fun experience for any party involved, and that includes the children. A family law attorney can help the situation by bringing information, experience and fairness to the situation. This will help the ex-husband and ex-wife sort out their divorce and make the decisions that are best for everybody involved.
Justin
If he is not sincere, what could be his motive?
My boyfriend and I have gone through alot in the last year, and us losing our apartment to a fire was the straw that broke the camel’s back. We have a 6 month old daughter, and our arguements and bickering to one another is nothing short of hostile. We said alot of hurtful things to one another about our baby, mostly out of anger and pain. Now we are trying to work through those areas, but I am still feeling a little stumped on what could be going on. There is still a big piece of me that doesn’t completely trust him anymore. To make a long story short, we are both back at our parent’s houses (I am 25 he is 28, which is a big kick to the ego for me), and trying to make things work out bouncing from one house to the other in order to stay in our child’s life. But what is getting me is that I don’t feel like me, or our baby is a priority in his life anymore. He gets all the freedom that he wants, and gets to see her when he finds it convienent, or really cares. He just tells me that he is so busy with work, and helping out several relatives on the weekends, that it is hard for him to get with us. I talked to him about it before, and he did make a great effort to be with us last weekend, but when Saturday night was over, it was back to himself once again doing whatever. I think at times he is sincere, others, not so much. He keeps trying to get me to bring our baby over to his parent’s house and leave her with him at times, so I can get some free time, but I don’t think it is necessary. She doesn’t know that house or his parent’s very well, and to have him keep her over there at night would just be devastating for her. I know my baby. The prosecuting attorney told me that until this goes to court, not to let him take her at all. He could run off with her, and it wouldn’t be kidnapping, because it is his baby and custody has not been arranged. The greatest fear that I have right now is that he is using our "family time" at his mom and dad’s in order to really stick it to me at court. What could happen in court if I allow this much time with her, what could be his angle if he really has one? One part of me is so afraid that he is up to something, but I could risk losing my family if I am wrong….. what to do? Also, I am not trying to keep him from his daughter. He worked all the time when we were living together, and never really took care of her. He doesn’t understand what goes along with dealing with a infant, and I just want it to be a smooth transaction if things don’t work between us. So, if you are going to leave negative remarks, please don’t bother.
You need a better man.
Fortunately, I am available.
What does the prosecuting attorney have to do with all of this? Who is being prosecuted?
PS–I love children!
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If your gut is saying not to trust him then you probably shouldn’t. On the other hand you sound a little paranoid. His parents raised him didn’t they? At one point you must have thought he was raised well enough. So why do you think your baby couldn’t possibly survive over there? Oh yeah because it is probably your first kid and a little baby so you are overly emotional about it and that would be your thought about anyone. Not trying to be negative, but realistic about that problem. You are using the theory he is going to do something to you to justify that fear. Anyway I don’t see a problem with not letting him keep the kid as long as you are in Court getting custody arranged. Just realize that your worst fear may come true when he gets custody and you have to LET HIM have the kid at his parent’s place.
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